8 months into wedding planning
Running a busy business
Progressing through a transition at work
Oh and life--family, exercise, friends, housekeeping, etc.
Every Sunday, Ricky and I would take some time to compare schedules and for MONTHS we'd have something every. evening. and every. weekend.
It was exhausting to say the least, and if I'm honest, we aren't out of the woods yet.
One of these Sundays, I was coming to the end of my mental and emotional reserves, and I exasperatedly said, "God. We are SO BUSY. Like, crazy busy."
To which Ricky replied, "Yeah, I'm done with saying we're busy."
Yeah, well, Mr. 9-5, must be nice to be so ABOVE being busy.
But once he explained his comment, my agitation turned into a deeper love for the man I get to marry.
He went on and said that we might not ever be not busy. This is just life for us. So let's just do it, take it one day at a time, and enjoy it.
I fought my natural inclination to argue, as Ricky basically gave me a huge and heavy, "YOU'RE WRONG," which I don't take very well. Instead, I was quiet for a moment, looking at my man, and allowed what he said to soak in.
He was right. We are both ambitious, social people, and that means a busy life for us to be happy. We want busy. We thrive on busy. Busy means there's so much LIFE in our life together. That's how we like it, even when every evening and every weekend is booked.
Ever since Ricky slammed the brakes on our "We're so Busy" train, our packed schedules haven't gotten me down. We're just as busy as we were before his comment, but the shift in perspective completely rearranged my mindset on the matter.
Deep breaths of gratitude have replaced sighs of exhaustion.
Note. Busy is not the same as nonstop. We take breaks. We steal moments away for cocktails just the two of us. We partake in our share of Netflix...and chilling.
We're still learning not to balance, because I'm not sure I even know what that means, but to prioritize. Making sure we're putting first things first. I imagine we'll be learning how to do that the rest of our lives.
How do you deal with a busy schedule? How do you say yes to the right things and no to the wrong things? Do you enjoy being busy, or are you a slower life kind of pal?