The moment she assumed her first pose, I could tell something was different about her. She came in a small group of women who wanted to experience their first boudoir sessions together. Even though she was the most reserved of the crew, she was more comfortable in her own skin than any of the women with whom I'd done boudoir sessions. I've photographed some incredibly bold, strong, beautiful women, but her confidence was different. It had very little to do with her physical appearance. It had to do with how she felt.
"He's going to love that one," one of her friends commented.
"He?" I delicately asked.
"My husband," my model coyly answered.
Ah-ha. Not only did I believe it to be influencing her approach to her session, but the knowledge certainly influenced my approach to her session.
There I was, behind the camera, with the privilege--the honor--of seeing what he sees, all the while discovering the million reasons he chose her.
She taught me a valuable lesson with her subtle sureness.
The way you feel during your session plays a huge role in the end result.
You have to be open to getting more comfortable and having a great time. Miss S. is lucky. She's got a deeply rooted confidence she exuded during her session. You don't have to be Miss S. to have a successful session. You just have to be willing to let your guard down a little bit and let me in.
I work really hard to help my clients feel comfortable from the get-go. Through information-packed emails to periodic check ins, and even styling and outfit assistance, I develop a rapport with you before we even meet. Then, by the time your session rolls around, we feel like boudoir besties.
"Fake it til you make it," my mother always says. Believe in yourself during your session. Even if you're not 100% comfortable or confident, believe that you are capable of looking amazing in photographs and I bet you'll start to feel it.