I have made boudoir photos for over 350 people.
As you can imagine, the boudoir experience is a very revealing one. Not just skin, of course. It's a brand new experience for most, and new experiences tend to strip us down to our most vulnerable bones. We are childlike in these moments, hearts open to the newness, minds slightly hesitant of it.
With every client I book, I am taken aback by the trust my clients place in me from the very start. Before I have written or spoken a word to them, they reveal a little bit about why they want to do a session. Some of them haven't felt beautiful in years. Some are on a wellness journey. Others have stories of abuse, medical issues, bad relationships, suppressive childhoods, struggles with motherhood. 350 unique stories to tell.
I worked hard to curate the booking process so that my clients can get to know me, and hopefully trust me very early on. I want them to feel welcome, safe, and eventually excited for the experience they're about to have. 9 times out of 10, during the first phone call I can hear the nervousness in their voices fall away. Their language goes from, "I'm nervous," to "I'm excited" in just around 20 minutes. It's really beautiful, and I am honored and flattered every time it happens.
Every so often I will receive an additional text or email after that first phone call. Having established a relationship, my clients seem to feel urged to share more with me after we speak. This is when I hear the real reasons they want to do a session.
It's never just about looking and feeling sexy.
It's about finding yourself again.
It's about healing.
It's about reclaiming something that was taken from you.
It's about celebration.
It's about acceptance.
It's about reconnecting with a part of yourself you thought might be gone.
It's about feeling desired.
It's about a new perspective.
It's about believing you are enough, dare I say, as you are.
I will never take for granted the honor it is to be invited on these journeys.
To those of you who have shared your story with me, thank you. You fill my heart with love and purpose when you do.
What is your story? What is behind your boudoir session? What would this experience mean to you?